On Releasing Control
“What’s one thing I should let go of to improve my life?,” the question read.
We were playing a game I purchased a couple weeks prior.
“Release your need to control everything,” he responded, not having to think too long about it. I let this settle into my spirit along with the various other messages I’d received that week about control.
God was clearly telling me something.
But how would I relinquish something that seemed to positively serve me more than it harmed me? The answer was simple…
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For The Colored Girls Whose Dreams Aren’t Bold Enough
When I was young I used to have the most ambitious dreams for my future. I wanted to work in the wildest professions, have the biggest house, and be part of the most loving family.
As I got older, my adult dreams started to become a little less wild and a little more realistic. I didn’t realize this until I achieved what I once thought was my life’s professional goal well before my anticipated completion date.
I was both excited and confused.
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Getting Back to Basics: An Ode to the First Five Years
“Don’t ‘all lives matter’ your brand,” she said.
I’ve been feeling uninspired for the past year and a half, so I decided to find solace in other outlets. I decided to sharpen my gift as a writer on other major sites. It was fun getting paid for my gift; fun writing about a slew of topics that didn’t connect to the mission here.
It was fun until it wasn’t.
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Stillness as a Form of Self-Preservation
I had a conversation with God shortly after my utter depletion a few months ago. I had been fighting a battle that wasn’t mine and He was adamant about reminding me of that. My complete exhaustion was the first reminder, His words were the second.
“I didn’t tell you to do any of that,” He declared as I ranted to Him about all I had done to get me out of the situation I (still) found myself in.
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Silencing the Voices
What if I can’t afford it? What if I lose my job and my credit tanks? What if God didn’t call me to do this work? What if I’m not as purposed as I thought I was?
These are only a few of the thoughts that have been piercing my mind lately. I’ve been making tremendous strides toward growth, healing, and greatness – and my spiritual obedience has been top notch, too. But despite the feeling of achievement, these thoughts have been echoing loudly within.
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On Grief and Loss
I was going to start my April posts off differently, but the brutal assassination of rapper and community activist, Nipsey Hussle, haunts me. Like much of the black community, I’ve been grieving since Sunday.
I watched the videos. All of them.
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Coming into Your Own: A Lesson on Authenticity, Alignment, and Purpose
I muscled into my hotel room with great disappointment after turning down a lunch date with colleagues. It was a long walk from the convention center to the Westin, so I had plenty of time to think about what I had just done. I needed a listening ear and a loving heart, but as I entered the room to explain my error to my best friend, nothing came out. I was so upset at myself that I couldn’t even express how I felt.
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Grounding Yourself in God’s Promise
I never doubted what God spoke to me prior to this particular situation. I always stood confident in His promise and owned it as if the words were tattooed on my torso. But this one was different. My situation didn’t look like what God had spoken. It didn’t feel like it after a while either. The promise God whispered to me felt miles away. Though He equipped me with affirming words to confirm what He spoke, I just couldn’t believe it — not with the way my situation was looking.
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Manifestation: Listening to God Made My Biggest Goal a Reality
ONE. Listen to God. He knows what He’s doing.
He pressed me to write this post. It had been sitting in my drafts for months. I knew the exact angle I was going to take, I just hadn’t started working on it yet. God was pushing me, though. He wanted me to get it done as soon as possible. I couldn’t understand what the rush was, but considering the urgency, I did what He told me to.
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How Believing in God Taught Me Self-Love
In 2008 I first felt His presence.
It was a few months after my first real heartbreak, and right after my college best friend (and roommate) packed up her things and dropped out. I was alone. Sad. Hopeless. Everything I had known, left. And there He was, simply there to comfort me. I had no idea what the feeling was at the time, but it was irrefutable – He was among me.
In 2012 I finally decided to pursue Him.
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